One to meet a fear head on rather than avoid it. This is certain tasks at work, public speaking, meeting new people etc.. I found that avoiding a task you fear just makes things worse and prolongs your fear. Also, if you do something like miss a day of work to avoid a task or job that you also become fearful of the consequences that may occur as a result. Also, meeting these as challenges also helps you grow as a person as you grow stronger and less fearful.
It also helps to talk to someone to help conquer a fear whether it be a spouse,friend, family member or clergy person. More often than not you get good advice or at least see things from a different perspective. Sometimes you may have to go into professional counselling to get the help you need. Don’t be afraid to get help to over fear.
Guidance from above even helps to as you pray you have spiritual help in conquering a fear. If you are not spiritual person a inspirational quote from a historical figure or famous person may be helpful. It is about finding the inner peace you need to get through a difficult or fearful situation and it helpful to keep you calm thought.
Finally, it is often a matter of of putting things in perspective as our fears and worries seldom come to pass. In his book How To Stop Worrying And Start Living Dale Carnegie talks about the worst case scenario in a situation we are worrying about. More often than not it doesn’t occur and when it does the impact isn’t often nearly as hard as we imagined it. It is often about weighing the positives and negatives of a situation and the positives often out weigh the negatives.
Just a word here that we are not to get reckless and put one’s life in danger if we are afraid of certain animal such as bear or things such as heights. Trying to engage a wild animal or combat a fear of heights by doing something death defying is not a way to combat fear but is dangerous and foolish. Common sense is often your greatest ally in overcoming our fears.
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